Just this past weekend our family had a conversation about how "Mom and Dad" met and got to know each other. I shared how I wasn't looking for a husband... I was mainly interested in having a special friendship with a "boy" -- a "boy friend." I was 17 and just out of high school when Lyle asked for my address so he could write to me over the summer. We enjoyed a friendly correspondence that summer and found we had common interests, so we started dating that fall at college. We were friends first and foremost. I wasn't in a hurry to get married, so I was caught off-guard less than 6 months later when I realized this was the man I wanted to spend the rest of my life with. Out of respect for my parent's wishes that we not marry so young, we were engaged for nearly 2 years. During that time our friendship grew and deepened.
Over the years, my husband has always been my best friend (humanly speaking). I know many women have close girlfriends. I never have. I think it's partly my personality, but also partly because Lyle and I are such good friends. We love to be together. We love to talk. And I believe our marriage is so strong because of it.
Now that the weather is beginning to warm up some we are enjoying our "tradition" of sitting on the porch in the evening just to catch up. Here in north Idaho, the evenings are cool and fresh all through the summer, and we love to sit outside and watch the stars come out. Some evenings we have important issues and decisions to discuss. Other evenings we just enjoy sitting together with nothing much to say. Our children tease us that we're "flirting" but they love the security of knowing that Mom and Dad are important to each other.
Another special time for sharing and talking is on long road trips. Lyle has always loved to drive, and I love to go along for the ride. Our children have grown up loving to travel, and it has become the main family activity that has strengthened our relationship with the kids. Drive time is perfect for deep, meaningful conversations or just light-hearted fun.
I am so grateful for the sweet gift of friendship that I have enjoyed with my husband over the years. It is not something I take for granted. I wish every couple were as blessed as we are.
Let each one of you in particular so love his own wife as himself, and let the wife see that she respects her husband. --Ephesians 5:33